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The Severing We Have Forgotten There is a wound that runs through the modern world so deep, so old, that most of us no longer recognize it as a wound at all. We simply call it normal life. We wake disconnected from the rhythms of the sun. We eat without knowing the plants that nourish us. We move through days surrounded by other humans yet feel profoundly alone. We look to the natural world—if we look at all—as a resource to be used, a backdrop to our busy lives, or at best, a place to visit...

Many of us move through life believing that courage means learning to walk alone. One of my clients discovered something very different. For privacy, I will call her Rachel. Rachel is a thoughtful and capable woman, yet again and again she found herself holding back from stepping into new experiences. When life invited her into unfamiliar territory—whether in her work, her relationships, or new opportunities—something inside her would quietly retreat. Part of her longed to expand her life....

Walking Through the Valley of the Dead There are valleys we do not know we are walking in. We think we are simply meeting the wrong person. We think we are unlucky in love. We think we love too deeply or choose poorly. But sometimes, without realizing it, we are wandering through the Valley of the Dead — the quiet terrain where old love still lies ungrieved. When Leticia came to me, she was tired. Not the kind of tired that sleep resolves. The kind that settles into the bones, the kind that...